Tragedy

This blog is directed toward girls, ladies, and/or women, but guys can read it too; it's not exclusive. My heart has been broken many times over girls, and it has nothing to do with them dating me or not. This isn't about girls leading me on, or hanging me out to dry. My heart breaks for girls because they are being let down. THIS IS NOT A SLAM ON GUYS. I really do get sick of everyone blaming problems specifically on males', or females', evil nature. I want to ask girls how much they think they are worth? I want to ask you desperately, how much do you think you're worth?

I have done through school hearing about friend after friend losing their virginity. Because virgin is a dirty work, after all, an insult. Out of the people who lost their virginity, very very few were upset. Most people will brag about such a thing. Since when do people brag about losing something? Imagine someone saying, "Dude! I lost $1000 at the casino, and it was awesome," or, "I lost my house and my marriage because of foreclosure! Yessss!" It just doesn't make sense... What about taking that from someone? If a guy takes a girl's virginity, it is some sort of accomplishment. Some people would brag about what they have stolen, but wheat kind of decent person brags about thievery? Guys, why do we think we can take that from anyone? Ladies, why would you let someone steal from you so easily? Do you value it? Aren't you scared of losing something that you were given one time?

Women, you were created by God-- your Father who loves you. Jeremiah 1 says that God crafted you in your mother's womb, and that he numbers the very hairs on your head. God has a purpose for you, and he loves you with such a special fervor. God gave you the gift of virginity and purity. The only one who is allowed to take that is your husband, because you are exchanging that gift. That doesn't mean you give it to: someone who is special to you, someone you love, someone you think you could marry, and not your fiance. What man, who isn't your husband, is worthy of getting that? Why would you value your virginity so little? That is sacred. Your body was meant to be the temple of the Holy Spirit (God dwelling in you) and you can't let someone desecrate it. Girls, please don't fall for that trap! If a boy want to have sex with you before you are married, then he is either: acting foolishly in the moment, or doesn't value you enough to respect your purity. And what about the gray areas between kissing and sex? Stay the heck away! Why test the boundaries, just be safe and remain as pure as possible. You should regret losing such a thing. God has placed such a high value on you, please see that.

A brief comment for us guys: don't be stupid. Let's not let our southern half control our lives. If you are proud of what you have taken, then you are lost. If you are lost, God is the only way to be found. Jesus Christ paid too high a price for us to be fooling around with his precious daughters.

Thankfully, if you have lost your virginity, it is not the end of the story. You are not ruined, you are not forsaken, and you are not filthy. You lost a precious gift, but what can we give away that Jesus Christ can't restore? You are God's daughter regardless of what you've done. I'm happy to say that there is hope for everyone to be restored. Please, please just avoid the spreading tragedy. Value yourselves, please. So many people will ignore purity...what a tragedy.