Sex Life

I am getting married in less than a month! I'm very excited about that, and I know it's cliche but I am marrying my best friend. We have dated for 3 years and some change, and we know each other so well that it makes us laugh at times. I am just a young guy, turning 20 at the end of May, and Amy is a very young lady! Because we are so young there have been a few voiced concerns, and probably many more unvoiced. If you don't mind, I would like to explain why we are getting married in May (rather than August or December (as previously planned)).

We are crazy in love--duh. We have dated for a long time and fell in love very early on in our relationship. Our love has been growing greater daily and it is way deeper than I'd ever though it could be. We are exceptionally mature for our age, and I trust that you know me well enough to know that I'm not trying to brag; just explain. We are, of course, very anxious to be married, but we are not making foolish choices. And finally, of course we are excited for sex, but that is simply not our motivation. I heard a comedian once say that getting married for sex is like buying a Bowing 747 for the in-flight peanuts--it's not worth it!

We moved the date up twice because December is honestly just too far away, and May is better than August for tax reasons and for Pell grant. That isn't the prime motivation either, but it will help us out tremendously. Also, I will be interning in another state this summer and it would make sense to have my wife with me. All these things, in themselves, are not great reasons to get married, but they do add up to make a pretty good case.

The key reason we are getting married is because we know it is God's plan. We are not foolish enough to jump into one of the most important life decisions without God's blessing. Not only that, but we have the blessing from every godly person in our lives. No one even considers our age because they know that we are mature, but more importantly mature in Christ. We are getting per-marital counseling from Robin and Jayme Sigars, so you know they won't take it easy on us! Basically, we are doing everything to prepare for a covenantal marriage that will last until death does, in fact, part us.

We want our marriage to represent God's love for his people; that is our aim. We have the uttermost reverence for the covenant of marriage. So let me shoot down some possible doubts in your mind.

We are not trying to just go against the grain and be mature, or play house. We are not having sex, or on the brink of sexual activity, nor is Amy pregnant. All praise and glory to God because we can say that we have never had sex in our lives. It is sad that, even to us, it is hard to believe that anyone can be together for 3 years and not have sex. Of course we are excited for sex; we would be some massive weirdos if we weren't, but God has sustained us and provided us with what we need to stay virgins.

We have not been perfect and we have not always been as crazy about each other as we are now. We passed from the infatuation stage (where we think the other person has no flaws) into the rocky time where we had to question how committed we truly were, and that was two years ago. We are not going into this life-long marriage blind.

There it is- I drew you in with a provocative title, but now you don't have to question our motivation for marriage. I am so blessed by Amy and give full credit to God for any success in our relationship. Pray for us that we would grow in love for each other as we continue to love God more and make him first in our lives. Thank you for supporting and caring for us. See you May 26th!

[Proof-read by the Amy Gentry]